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More insanity in the news [Aug. 6th, 2013|12:34 pm]
henglaar
This girl wanted help in torturing her ex-boyfriend and murdering him. Twice, with two different ex-boyfriends.

And this guy decided to take a drive down the Venice Beach boardwalk---and over as many pedestrians as he could manage. He managed to kill one and injure many others.

We have no way of predicting who is going to turn violent and who is not, nor are we likely to ever have that capability. So I remain grateful to be in a relatively safe location, where my stalker is unlikely to be able to reach me, and where my neighbors are distant enough not to get harmed by him in the attempt.
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Dilbert's Creator Praises Himself Via Sockpuppets [Apr. 17th, 2013|05:29 pm]
henglaar
I don't suppose this sounds at ALL familiar? At least he doesn't seem to have fallen into the idiocy of pointing to his own posts on another site as "proof" that someone supports his beliefs.

But he seems to have said one true thing amid the lies: "smart people were on to me after the first post." Yeah, when a person has a distinctive style, it doesn't take many posts to catch on.
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Narcissistic cop goes on rampage. [Feb. 9th, 2013|12:08 am]
henglaar
Having been stalked for years by a self-centered madman, this news article is more than a little disturbing.

This former officer is aggressive, narcissistic, claims that the people he's harassing are instead harassing him. He lies, making up things about the people who have "wronged" him, frequently by telling the truth about how poorly he was performing. He couldn't hold his job with the LAPD for more than a few months, but thinks of himself as a Rambo-esque hero. He can never live up to his image of himself, but will likely blame everyone in the world except himself for it.

And people wonder why I worry that my stalker will snap some day. I suppose that I should be grateful that my stalker is not known to have any weapons training at all.
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A belated Happy Birthday to Hudsomi1! [Nov. 3rd, 2012|06:41 pm]
henglaar
Happy birthday, my friend. May you have many happy returns of the day!
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How to deal with a bully without becoming a thug. [Oct. 18th, 2012|04:28 pm]
henglaar
An excellent video, an excellent talk, and it shows that it takes more courage to not fight than to fight.

But what happens when the bully is insane? How do you deal with someone who wants to fight and has no conscience about killing the unarmed and peaceful? Someone who will maintain their oppression through any means at all, regardless of laws and ethical codes and society's teachings?

A person can get awfully dead by thinking that their oppressor is willing to play by civilized rules, if that oppressor thinks that they themselves actually make the rules, or that the rules don't apply to them.
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Another stalker victim refuses to be intimidated [Oct. 17th, 2012|08:51 pm]
henglaar
This story is both good and bad.

The good part is that she is not letting her stalker get away with harassing her and slandering her. She is working within the system to get her life back from this bastard.

On the other hand, it has been an uphill climb for her every inch of the way. She's had lawyers ignorant of the anti-cyberstalking laws, judges who want to deal with "more important crimes". She's had to get court orders to verify his IP address, and more court orders to order him to leave her alone (which, of course, he refuses to do). And of course, it's taken money. Money that she has, but that many victims do not.

And it's far too early to see if her story will have a happy ending. Will he ever leave her alone? Will she win her suit? Will he escalate into violence? Will his other victims come forward and join her?

Make no mistake: the victim of a stalker cannot simply wander into a police station and swear out a warrant. To the extent that it protects innocent people from being accused of stalking, that's a good thing. But it is so much work and money bringing a genuine stalker to justice that many victims simply sit and take it. They either don't have the money or the energy to go through all of that. And the legal system still has problems even taking it seriously as a crime. At this time, even an obviously malicious stalker still has most of the advantages over their victims.

What can a stalker's victims do? Mostly two things: band together for mutual protection, and raise public and legal awareness of the crime----and the criminal's activities. Silence is his best protection even when he's making no effort to hide at all. Whatever obsession drives a stalker, he will NOT stop until he is forced to stop. For some, that's as simple as a court order, but for many more, a restraining order just makes them madder.

NEVER treat a stalker as if they were harmless but hate-filled idiots, because there is no way to predict which ones are dangerous. And by the time a stalker proves that he's dangerous, it's far, far too late for his victims.
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"Anonymous" 'Outs' Man who drove teen to suicide [Oct. 16th, 2012|11:59 pm]
henglaar
The damage stalkers and Internet bullies are capable of doing is far greater than most people realize, perhaps even including the stalkers and bullies themselves. Not that they care, of course: they believe that they are doing the right thing, and that their actions can be justified by their right to free speech.

"Anonymous", the outlaw group that illegally published thousands of classified documents on the Internet some months ago, finally seems to have done something good: they appear to have found the man who drove Amanda Todd to suicide.

He convinced her, at age twelve, to pose topless for him. A year later, he tried to blackmail her into doing more. She stood up to her stalker, and he retaliated by publishing the picture of her. She moved, and her stalker found her again. And when she moved again, he found her again. Each time, he proved that he'd found her by giving her addresses, names of her friends and relatives, where she went to school, more than enough details about her new location and life to make it obvious that he wasn't lying.

Once the picture was published, other bullies joined in, saying other hateful things, including the oft-repeated wish that she would kill herself. A short while ago, at age fifteen, she gave them what they wanted and hung herself. It was the only way to escape her tormentors, including her stalker.

Her stalker thought he was safe, because he had "hidden" his identity, too stupid to realize that you can't really hide on the Internet. You can slow down your pursuers, you can make it difficult and expensive, and you can, for awhile, hide behind the protections of the law. The same law that makes such violations of privacy illegal can be made to work for a short while for the stalker himself by protecting his privacy. But nothing lasts forever.

"Anonymous", being an outlaw group, doesn't worry about niceties such as search warrants or due process, and they believe that they have found him. They have stripped away his anonymity so that now HE can be shamed as he has apparently shamed others, and he can finally feel something of what Amanda Todd did.

"Anonymous" is not positive that this IS the man who destroyed Amanda Todd's life, but they are quite certain that the man they exposed is a pedophile, so they don't really care, either. The police are now investigating, and from the viewpoint of "Anonymous", it is a no-lose scenario: either a pedophile is sent to jail, or the man who stalked Amanda Todd to her death is sent to jail. And if it isn't the man who drove Amanda to suicide, they'll look some more until they DO find him.

Some stalkers are very sophisticated. Some stalkers are downright stupid. But no stalker can remain hidden forever.
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Sheriff John, gone at 93 [Oct. 11th, 2012|11:03 am]
henglaar
I recently read of "Sheriff John" and his passing.

He never made it to the national circuit, but for a good 18 years, he entertained children in the Los Angeles area, running from 1952 to 1970. We never knew John Rovick's real name, and we didn't care. We only knew that he was Sheriff John, he had strong feelings of right and wrong that he gently passed on to us, and that he had some of the best cartoons around.

We didn't know that he was made an honorary sheriff because of his interest in law enforcement before his show ever started. We didn't know of his Emmy award. We didn't know of his fifty air combat missions in World War II. He was a man who didn't bother talking the talk or boasting of having walked the walk. He was simply one of the many, many unheralded men who did what was needed and moved quietly on to the next thing in life.

On October 6th, he just as quietly moved on to the last thing in life.

And the world's largest posse ever formed celebrates his life even as we mourn his passing.
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When Bullies Pick On the Wrong Victim [Oct. 2nd, 2012|08:27 pm]
henglaar
While pretending to be offering constructive criticism, one tv viewer (who normally doesn't even watch the show!) made some nasty comments about the woman who hosts the show.

With much more style, class, and even kindness than her detractor, she made this response.

Remember always that a bully relies on victims who will not fight back. Nothing encourages a bully more than a victim who is no danger to him because they won't fight back. Be a danger to bullies: always fight back. And remember that bullies never have just one victim. Gather up all the other victims of your bully, and stand together. Every bully is a coward at heart; the last thing they want is a fair fight.
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Stalkers: Insane, or Good at Rationalizing? [Sep. 29th, 2012|03:36 pm]
henglaar
An interesting thesis on honesty explains how a stalker might NOT be insane, even while giving insane justifications of their actions. (The craziest I've heard remains "I'm not a stalker; he's stalking ME!")

No one thinks of themselves as evil, and this whole process may explain how someone can do evil and not recognize it as such, and still not be insane.

But, can you actually reason with someone who has rationalized their behaviors to justify them? Can you make them see that they've done wrong and are still doing wrong? Or does a powerful rationalization make you as impervious to reality as if you actually were insane?
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